January 3, 2019 by Alison Watson-Shields
Emotional resilience is a vitally important life skill. It means being able to overcome the barriers and obstacles of everyday life with the minimum of anxiety, stress and upheaval.
Becoming emotionally resilient
Emotional resilience like any life skill is something that you learn, build upon and create within yourself. Emotional resilience is simply knowing that no matter the issue, there will always be a solution and a way to navigate the emotions. Like most people, when faced with a particularly challenging problem the first emotion I hit is panic, then I begin to stress about the problem and believe I cannot overcome my issues. However, in the calm following the initial storm, I begin to think rationally and the solution slowly becomes clear.
Here are a few tips that I have found helpful in overcoming such issues and becoming emotionally resilient:
Admitting that you have a problem
Admitting that you are having an issue makes you more open and able to tackle the problem head on. While denying that the issue exists can make life easier in the short term but it will not make the problem disappear and can make the issue worse in the long run.
Identifying the cause of the problem
This involves finding out the root cause of the problem itself. For example, if you woke up tomorrow with a toothache, you would contact your dentist to make an appointment to find out the cause of your toothache. And once that cause has been identified, you are able to create a solution to remedy the issue that you are having. The same can be said for so many issues in everyday life, the root cause is not always the problem you are facing but something that lies beneath the presenting issue.
Identifying a solution
In order to identify a solution that works for you, it can help to talk to someone that you trust about the problems you are facing and how they are making you feel. Speaking about your issues can help you move on and prevent you from obsessing about the problem and making it seem worse than it actually is.
Implementing your solution
The final stage of dealing with issues that test your emotional resilience is simply to put into action your solution, no matter what that may be. But also bear in mind that not all of our problems can be solved quickly, some will require more time than others and sometimes the effects of these issues will have a lasting impact on you for an indeterminate amount of time.
In my own experience issues that test my emotional resilience can leave me with unexplained feelings of guilt and remorse. This is completely normal, and moving past them cannot always happen quickly. You can use self help techniques and some distraction methods such as watching television, using the internet and also talking to friends and family can help.
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